Fleshlight Vs Hand


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Fleshlight vs hand – which is more pleasurable when it comes to masturbation?

We all know that masturbation is a lot of fun, so it makes sense why you would be on the lookout for ways to improve your masturbation experience

Today, there is no shortage of sex toy options for you to choose from. But will a Fleshlight toy really elevate your masturbation sessions, or is using your hand just as effective?

In this article, we’ll be talking frankly about sexual pleasure and what makes for the most realistic sexual experience – using your hand, or using a Fleshlight sex toy. We’ll also be looking at the different tips and tricks you can use to make your Fleshlight toy feel much more like a real vagina, anus or mouth.

Without further ado, let’s get to it.

Jerking off with a Fleshlight sex toy vs your hand

What are the differences in sensation between using a Fleshlight vs hand to jerk off, and which option ultimate leads to a bigger orgasm?

Here is our detailed overview over what you can expect.


Fleshlights are made from patented SuperSkin material which has been specifically designed to feel supple and soft, just like real skin. As anyone who has ever had a Fleshlight sex toy can testify, SuperSkin comes pretty close to feeling real. 

As a besodes, SuperSkin is a completely body safe material, so you don’t have to worry that masturbation with a Fleshlight is going to offset any allergies or irritate your skin.

The fact that SuperSkin feels highly realistic to the touch is a tremendous bonus. After all, it feels better and more exciting to touch someone else’s skin instead of simply your own.

By contrast, your hand is part of your own body, and therefore won’t feel like touching or being touched by someone else. This is a drawback, because an important part of what makes sex with someone else so thrilling is the feeling of being touched by someone other than yourself. There’s simply nothing that beets the electrifying sensation of your body touching and being touched by another person’s.


Just like real vaginas, anuses and mouth orifices, Fleshlight sleeves come in a variety of different textures. At this point, there are also plenty of different Fleshlight models in the market, so you can choose whichever one/s you like based on your personal preferences. You can be sure that there is a Flashlight that is going to appeal to what you like, whether you are into oral, vaginal or anal sex

While most Fleshlights are generic, meaning that they aren’t based on any specific vagina, anus or mouth, Flashlight also produces two lines of spin-off toys which are moulded on real pornstars’ real vaginas and anuses. These toys are called the Fleshlight Girls and the Fleshjack Boys.

Compared to using your hand, Fleshlights and the many different Fleshlight sleeves on offer simply offer a much greater variety in texture and stimulation. You may well be able to form a fleshy tunnel using your hand, but it won’t have the texture and realistic feel of a real vagina or a real butthole. Regardless of how much of a vivid imagination you may have, the palm of your hand is still going to feel like the palm of your hand, and not like a real bodily orifice.


When you are thrusting into a real pussy or butthole, you’ll experience suction as a natural result of the physical motion and friction between yours and lover’s bodies. The suction can provide you with intense stimulation and pleasure, in a way that using just your bare hand simply can’t replicate.

You may, on the other hand, be pleasantly surprised by the intense level of suction you’re able to achieve when thrusting into a Fleshlight sleeve. 

Cleaning and maintenance

When it comes to cleaning and maintenance, using your hand is a lot less effort than using any kind of sex toy.

Washing and drying your hands after you’ve come is completely straightforward, while cleaning, drying and storing your sex toy comes with a few extra steps. 

Cleaning and drying your Fleshlight sleeve and other sex toys is key, as the porous material the toys are made of makes them susceptible to mold and bacterial growth if you fail to clean and dry them off whenever you are done using them.

Overall sensation

Overall, you are likely to experience more sexual pleasure from using a Fleshlight rather than your hand.

While your hand is certainly a useful thing to have when you are in a hurry and don’t have better alternatives available, it is never going to feel as realistic as a sex toy that has been built to resemble and act much like a real vagina, anus or mouth. 

It is worth investing in a high-quality sex toy if you want to enhance sexual pleasure and enjoy your solo time even more. But a Fleshlight still isn’t going to feel quite like having actual sex. The closest you can get to this is investing even more in an interactive, touch-sensitive teledildontic sex toy.

How to make a Fleshlight sleeve feel more real

If you knew a few tips and tricks that would help you make your Fleshlight feel much more like a real vagina or anus, would you use them? Of course you would. Here they are.

Use a Fleshlight sleeve warmer

One of the ‘problems’ you will encounter when masturbating into a pocket pussy is that it doesn’t have anything resembling a realistic body temperature. In hot weather, this may not phase you at all, but on colder days it can be a constant reminder of the fact that you are playing with a sex toy rather than having actual sex.

One of the best accessories you can get for your Fleshlight toy is a Fleshlight sleeve warmer. A Fleshlight sleeve warmer does what it says on the tin; it allows you to keep your Fleshlight sleeve warm, which works wonders for making it feel more pleasant and realistic. 

If you can’t afford or don’t want to splurge the cash on a Fleshlight sleeve warmer, there are plenty of other ways to warm up your Fleshlight sleeve, as well as keep it warm while it is in use.

One of these DIY methods is simply immersing your Fleshlight sleeve in warm water until it reaches a pleasant temperature. Because Fleshlights are waterproof, you can also choose to take your sex toy with you in the bath or shower. 

The downside to heating your Fleshlight toy with warm water is that it’ll cool back down quickly. If you want to maintain a realistic temperature, you’ve got to find other ways of keeping your toy warm. One great option is to wrap yourself and the toy in an electric blanket while you masturbate. Another clever addition you can use is warming lube.

Use plenty of lube

This isn’t true for when you are having anal sex, but when you are thrusting into a real vagina, it lubricates itself with arousal so you achieve a good glide and a warm, slippery sensation. 

Needless to say, a Fleshlight sleeve does not have the capacity to self-lubricate. Instead, you will have to use plenty of lube to give the impression of a well-oiled orifice. Water-based lubricants are best, as they don’t cause any damage to your toy, but there are also plenty of lube alternatives you can try.

Adjust the rear cap

Fleshlights may primarily be manual sex toys, but the adjustable rear cap that they all come equipped with is an important detail. It is this rear cap which, when adjusted, allows you to adjust the intensity of the suction you experience.

You may find that the suction is too weak, in which case all you need to do is to adjust the cap. Alternatively, you may experience too much stimulation, in which case you should also simply adjust the cap until the level of suction feels good to you.

The suction that a Fleshlight toy gives you is an important aspect of what makes this sex toy a better masturbation device than using just a hand. If you want to simulate real sex, suction and friction are necessary to achieve the kind of whole body pleasure that sex is supposed to give you.

Pair with other sensory stimulation

Another way of adding some realism and added pleasure to your Fleshlight masturbation experience is to pair your Fleshlight with other forms of stimulation. There is no one size fits all, so just reach for what appeals to you.

You may have a particular type of porn or a particular porn star that you particularly enjoy. Why not make yourself comfortable and pretend that the pocket pussy you are thrusting into belongs to your favorite porn actress? It gets even better if your masturbation sleeve is molded on that specific porn star’s intimate anatomy. 

You can also intensify your sexual pleasure by coming your Fleshlight with other sex toys, such as as vibrating cock ring, a butt plug, nipple clamps, or whatever gets you aroused.

Upgrade your toy

Yet another thing you can do, if you are willing to invest a little more havily in a high-end, high-grade masturbation toy, is upgrading from a Flashlight to one of the newer and more technologically sophisticated male masturbators that have come into the sex toy market over the past few years.

One of the teledildontic toys we often recommend is the Kiiiroo Onyx+, which is the newest and most advanced automatic male masturbator by visionary Austrian sex tech producer Kiiroo. 

The Kiiroo Onyx+ has all of the perks and pluses of a traditional Fleshlight sex toy, as well as many more. Being a teledildontic sex toy means that the Kiiroo Onyx+ has Bluetooth connectivity, which means it can be connected to and controlled by an app. This opens up a whole new world of possibilities for sexual pleasure, as the Onyx+ can be paired with any visual or aural stimuli you wish. You can synch your Kiiroo Onyx+ (Or any other Kiiroo sex toy for that matter) with other Kiiroo toys, with porn, with Virtual Reality content including VR porn scenes and VR porn games. 

Because the Kiiroo Onyx+ has built-in touch-sensitive technology, it is able to respond to the movements and touch that unfolds either on the VR screen, or on the cam chat when you meet up with a long-distance sexual partner.

The Kiiroo Onyx+ is far from the only smart male masturbator out there. There are plenty of other options to explore, including other toys from Kiiroo, as well as from other cutting-edge sex tech manufacturers such as Lovense and Hot Octopuss.

If you have never heard of or explored the possibilities of smart sex toys like the Kiiroo Onyx+ before, we strongly recommend reading up on them so you can decide for yourself whether spending more is worth it to get your hands on one.

Choosing between different Fleshlight sex toys and male masturbators

If you are ready to spice up your solo sex life and are ready to get your hands on a Fleshlight sex toy, here is our guide to choosing the right one. 

Fleshlight sex toys come in all sorts of different models as well different shapes and sizes. Most of them are generic, and some come with normal bland sleeves. while there is nothing wrong with any of this, you may find it more interesting if you pick a Fleshlight modelled on a specific porn star’s anatomy. That way, you can fantasise about having sex with your favourite porn actor or actress, or you can simply enjoy knowing that the artificial vagina or anus you are fucking has the exact proportions and nearly the same texture as the real thing.

Fleshlight GIRLS

The Fleshlight Girls series of Fleshlights are all modelled on real porn stars’ real vaginas. For this reason, there are many unique textures, tightness levels and skin tones available to choose from and explore.

If you have a favourite famous porn actress, there is a decent chance that she might have collaborated Fleshlight to release a pocket pussy based on her sexual anatomy. If this appeals to you, choosing one of the Fleshlight Girls is a fantastic option to have.

Of course, you do not need to know or specifically care about a particular porn actress in order to choose a toy based on her vagina. All of the Fleshlight Girls come with relatively detailed on-the-box descriptions of the kinds of texture you can expect, so you can simply pick and choose based on the types of texture and tightness that appeal to you.

Among the most popular Fleshlight Girls are Annika Albrite Siren, Alexis Texas Tornado, Lisa Ann Savage and Nikki Benz Reign.

Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys

The Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys is a range of Fleshlight toys specifically catering to gay men. Each of the toys in the Fleshjack Boys lineup have been molded on the intimate anatomy of male porn stars, and there are various models to choose from.

Because they are modelled on real anuses, there are many different textures to choose between and tightness varies.

Among the most popular Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys are Milan Christopher and Diego Sans.

Fleshlight vs hand: Which is more pleasurable?

If you have read this article all the way from the beginning to now, you have probably already decided for yourself whether you believe using a Fleshlight or just your hand is the more pleasurable masturbation option.

All in all, the Fleshlight wins over using your hand. There are so many benefits to using a Fleshlight versus your hand that there really is no ambiguity. If your goal is to simulate real sex as closely as possible, there is no doubt that you should opt for a Fleshlight, and that, if you can justify the cost, upgrade to a smart sex toy so you can experience the added pleasure and realism of contractions and app control.

If you aren’t prepared to shell out on a Kiiroo or Lovense toy, a Fleshlight is also a fantastic sex toy for masturbation. Just to reiterate, these are the advantages to using a Fleshlight sleeve versus your hand to pleasure yourself:

  • A Fleshlight is made of super soft, super supple SuperSkin material which feels more like touching a lover’s body than touching yourself
  • Flashlights are able to enclose and stimulate a much larger area of your penis than just your hand
  • With a Fleshlight, you’ll be able to achieve a good level of suction, whereas with your hand all you can hope for is a reasonable amount of friction
  • You can get Fleshlights that are modelled on real pornstars’ real anatomy. This allows you to experience and explore a wide range of different textures, tightness levels and sensations

Whatever you’re into, read our expert deep-dive into the best automatic male masturbators on the market today where we test out and review the Kiiroo Keon, Autoblow AI and many more top long distance sex toys to give you the best advice on what to go for.

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