How to Jerk Off

If you were hoping to find comprehensive instructions on how to jerk off for maximum pleasure, you’re in luck, because this is it.

Fact – anyone who has a penis knows how to jerk off. A survey in 2018 by Tenga (a popular sex toy manufacturer), shows that 92% of American men pleasure themselves. Now, I don’t know what the remaining 8% are doing, they are probably getting laid almost every night that they don’t find the need to touch themselves anymore, or they straight-up just lied on the survey. Kidding aside, masturbation for men is pretty straightforward and doesn’t need a comprehensive guide. As a matter of fact, most men discovered masturbation at a pretty young age, when they had no real use for their testosterone-loaded bodies and release sexual tension.

So, what’s the point of this article? Well, there is a good chance you are doing it wrong, or at least, you are not maximizing your solo play sessions to their full potential. If you want to pamper and pleasure yourself and get the best out of your next masturbation session, then you are on the right page. Read on and discover what’s in store for you.

Beating the stigma

The problem with masturbation is that aside from the shame and fear of getting caught – there seems to be a never-ending stigma surrounding sexual pleasure, especially around younger men. Very few men were told that pleasuring themselves is a completely natural process, and an excellent way to discover their sexuality.

And for most men, those secretive habits of fast and furious masturbation continue into adulthood. Most men are jerking off the same way they did when they were teenagers – mechanical, rushed, with the emphasis on finishing off quickly to get back to their daily life. While more and more men are opening their minds to trying new things (such as using masturbation sleeves like Fleshlights or other pocket pussies), most men are still concerned about the stigma attached to it.

Why you need to masturbate

Do you remember your first masturbation session? Did you finish? Chances are, you are obsessed with pleasuring yourself after it, right? Well, there’s no shame in admitting it. No one can blame you; it is an amazing feeling. The whole thing just feels good, from the moment you pull out your penis and stroke yourself, to the climax.

Well, aside from the feel-good bodily sensation, there are more reasons why you need to jerk off regularly, such as physical, psychological, and emotional health benefits. Health experts agree that a masturbation routine should be a common thing for men.

Despite the myth, there are no known physical negative side effects of masturbation. It does NOT cause infertility, decrease sperm count, vision loss, hormonal imbalances, dehydration, lower libido, or erectile dysfunction. s

Obviously, obsessive masturbation is a serious problem that must be addressed, as it is a mental concern. But aside from that, masturbation is safe and harmless and is a huge part of healthy sex life and overall sexual health.

Anecdotal reports suggest that masturbation, as well as other forms of sexual stimulation, brings many health benefits, such as helping release built-up stress, can help you relax, boosting mood, better sleep, releasing sexual tension, and even helping relieve cramps or better sex.

Some research even suggests that regularly cleaning your pipes can help lower the risk of prostate cancer.

Also, regular masturbation can make you harder by improving your pelvic floor muscles, which can ultimately help you last longer in bed (and become a better lover).

Another small study in 2004 suggests that ejaculating helps your immunity by balancing your hormone levels.

Tips to enjoy your next solo sessions more

So, how to jerk off and make the whole thing enjoyable?

To start with, note each person is different, and there is no single “correct” way to do this thing; thus, there are many ways to masturbate There are however, numerous ways to make it more enjoyable and pleasurable. If you are looking to upgrade your sex life with the very person you can always count on (yourself, of course), then you need to try these tips.

Here is a comprehensive guide on how to whack off like a pro.

Set the mood

While most men don’t need quite a lot of buildup to get into the mood, setting up an environment conducive to self-love can make a huge difference in the whole experience. You don’t need to light the aromatherapy candles, or pour a glass of wine and play a sexy sensual music. All you have to do is perform some self-care by showering before doing it, pouring a glass of bourbon, and dimming the lights. That’s pretty much it. Of course, you can add some visual and audio aids by watching porn.

Change up the positions

You probably have your favorite position to choke the chicken too, and chances are, you have been doing it that way since your teenage years. It is probably time to switch things up.

As you may know, doing multiple sex positions makes sex a lot better. Well, that applies to solo play sessions too.

If you often do it standing up, try laying on your back. If you do it sitting, try standing up. A change of position can engage your pelvic floor muscles better, which will help improve the blood flow down to your nether regions, which ultimately will improve your erection.

Take your time

There are many reasons why many guys masturbate in a haste. Maybe you are tired, couldn’t sleep, and want to sleep as soon as possible. Maybe you are late for work. Maybe your roommate is knocking on the door waiting for you to finish in the bathroom. The thing is, this can exacerbate premature ejaculation.

Like in sex, you want to build up the sexual tension first. This is the key to a better orgasm. Slow down and indulge in some anticipation.

Settle in

Treat your solo session as your chance to listen and tune in to your body; let yourself discover your sexual desires and understand your own body better – treat it as a meditative act. Pay attention to your breathing, feel free and release the tension, and feel your heartbeat.

The more you are attuned to your body, the more confident you will become when it comes to partnered sex. 

Jack off after working out

There is a reason why you feel horny after a good workout – your body just released hormones that affects your sex drive, including adrenaline and more importantly – dopamine (the feel-good hormone). This means your endorphins are quite high, your blood flow feels good, and your pelvic muscles are relaxed. This is the best time to let off some steam. 

Lube up!

You may have done it a thousand times already, but your dry hand and fingers are not ideal for masturbation. Not only you can develop a “rug burn”, but over time, your penis can become desensitized from all the stroking. You can avoid this by using lube when jerking off.

Yes, you read that right, lube, not lotion.

Personal lubes are specifically designed for masturbation or penetrative sex. It provides the necessary lubrication to minimize friction and allow you to smoothly stroke your penis. Lotion, on the other hand, is designed for your skin, and the skin on your penis is thinner. Soaking a lotion on your hand and masturbating with it can cause the lotion to get into your bloodstream. This is why it dries quickly, as it is easily absorbed on your skin.

Also, most scented lotions contain alcohol and fragrances that must not go anywhere near your penis. Your penis is filled with nerve endings that make it an extremely sensitive area to stimulation. Harmful chemicals in lotion can cause allergies and dermatitis (skin inflammation).

And no, petroleum jelly and Vaseline aren’t good substitutes either.

Your best bet is to opt for water-based lubricant that is free of any warming agents. If you don’t have any at home, you can use 100% dietary oil such as virgin coconut oil.

If you are jerking off with sex toys, make sure to avoid silicone-based lubes, as they can damage your precious toy.

Vary your strokes

Much like in positions, many guys have their preferred strokes, and they tend to stick to it through and through. However, much like changing your masturbation position, changing your stroke can introduce you to new sensations.

Experiment with different strokes, from length to speed. Try using three fingers instead of all your fingers, twist your penis a little bit, pull a little harder, try focusing on the sensitive area or sensitive parts of your penis, etc.

Vary your grip

Chances are you are doing “death grip” on your dick, without even knowing it. The term refers to squeezing or overly tight grip on your penis while you masturbate, and if you are doing it, there’s a good chance it is messing with not just your masturbation, but even your sex life.

Indeed, gripping your dick tight while erect feels good. You probably have masturbated this way in your younger years. However, doing this over time means your penis will get used to that pressure, and eventually will need more of that tight grip to feel good.

Gripping your penis too tightly can cause problems in maintaining hard erections. As a result, your penis becomes desensitized to regular grip, which most vaginas cannot provide.

To avoid this problem, make sure you change up your grip and strokes from time to time. Also, instead of gripping your penis, use sex toys with lubricants to get that all-natural feeling. Many sex toys out there, especially masturbation sleeve, are specifically designed to help increase sensitivity, which can help you for real sex.

Try listening to porn, instead of watching

Many men depend on free porn videos widely available on the internet. Indeed, men are visual creatures. The problem with watching too much porn however is that your brain becomes desensitized to this kind of stimulant. It floods your brain with dopamine, and you will get addicted to that feeling. And to chase that feeling again, you will be watching more and more porn, and diving deep into that rabbit hole of unhealthy addiction. You will develop decreased sexual satisfaction, and may not get off with partnered sex. Not to mention you become dependent on porn to get hard and to get off.

Instead of watching porn, try listening to or reading adult audiobooks or listening to erotica and let your imagination run wild.

Try edging

Edging is a technique that revolves around the “stop and start method”. There are ways to do edging, but basically, what you do is jerk off close to orgasm, and then stop yourself from reaching the climax (finishing). The idea is to deny your penis of the final release, forcing you to lower the arousal by taking a step back before falling off the edge of orgasm, and then doing it again. The benefits? Well, doing this cycle a couple or more times can give you the most mind-blowing and explosive orgasm.

Aside from that, edging can help alleviate premature ejaculation. And for partnered sex, edging can help you please your partner longer.

 Go southpaw (or orthodox, if you are already southpaw)

Another good way to shake things up is to use your left hand (or your right hand if you are left-handed). Use your non dominant hand. Why?

Well, it is so easy to fall into a jerking-off rut as you become desensitized. Using your opposite hand, however, is easy to way get away from the ordinary and introduce new sensations to your penis

You can also turn your hand upside down so it slides into your dick four fingers first like you are pulling the Excalibur out of the giant rock. From there you can make twisting strokes. The key here is to introduce unfamiliar hand maneuvers and break tedious routines. 

Your balls deserve some love too

You probably already know that your glans (tip of the penis) houses tons of nerve endings, it is the most sensitive to stimulation. Well, did you know your testicles have sex-specific nerve endings too? They may not have the same number as the glans, but they are sensitive to touch too, making them great parts to incorporate into the whole thing.

Your preferences and sensitivities differ others. However, for many penis owners, the balls are often an untapped source of sexual and intense stimulation. Pulling your balls down gently, and in a rhythm, a few moments before you climax is a great way to add a new sensation to your solo play session. 

Include the taint too (perineum)

The perineum is the area between your anus and the penis, and it is an extremely sensitive area. As a matter of fact, it is one of the erogenous zones that is often missed, in both masturbation and partnered sex.

Like other sensitive parts of your body, the perineum houses tons of nerve endings, making it extremely sensitive to stimulation. Pressing this part (or better yet, using a vibrating toy to press) will introduce a new kind of pleasure you may have never experienced before.

Experiment with toys

To say that male sex toys have drastically improved is a huge understatement. Today, there are almost unlimited options specifically designed for men. Options range from ultra-realistic artificial vaginas, artificial mouths, and artificial anus, to whole torsos, and even full-blown realistic sex dolls, etc. Brands like Fleshlight, Tenga, Kiiro, Fun Factory, Lelo, and the likes, are changing the landscape of the sex toy industry. You may shell out some cash to get the best experience, but even cheaper alternatives can provide a huge difference compared to just using your bare hands.

Moreover, more and more brands are offering mechanical blowjob machines for hands free masturbation. Some can even hook up to your phone via Bluetooth and sync with the movements in the adult videos. Some even work with virtual reality (via VR headset) to give you the best POV experience. Thus, if you often watch porn to jerk off, you can easily take that to a whole new level. 

Try out some vibrators

Yes, you read that right, vibrators aren’t exclusive for the ladies. As said earlier, the male sex toys industry has improved so much that they now have vibrators designed for penis owners. There are vibrating cock rings that can provide you with a different masturbation experience.

A cock ring is essentially a band that goes around the base of your dick, some can go all the way to the testicles. The idea of this sex toy is to trap blood flow around the shaft, thereby giving you a harder erection. The great thing about cock rings is that you can use them for sex with a partner too. Wearing a cock ring during sex gives you more tools to stimulate the clitoris of your partner – a win-win situation for your body of you.

Try some prostate stimulation too

Most men, especially those who identify as straight, are apprehensive about anal play. Well, this is not for everybody, but for the brave and the bold, and for men out there who are willing to experiment this far, and leave the baggage of the world and society behind, anal stimulation, or prostate stimulation to be exact, can take your masturbation sessions and orgasm to a whole new level.

As said earlier, there are multiple erogenous zones in the human body. Men and women have different erogenous zones, and one of the zones that are present in men and absent in women is the prostate gland. The prostate packs tons of nerve endings that when stimulated, can bring some really good sexual pleasure.

Now if you are curious enough to try anal stimulation, you can start with anal beads or smaller butt plugs. Vibrating anal play toys will massage the prostate and give you the kind of orgasm you most likely have not felt before.

The takeaway

There you have it, the best masturbation tips to take your solo sex to a whole new level.

As said earlier, treat masturbation as a meditative act. This may sound counterintuitive, but the less you obsess about finishing, the more you will enjoy the whole experience. Orgasm is not a race, take your sweet time to be in the moment, and focus on the pleasure.