Best Sex Toys for Gay Men

What are the best sex toys for gay men, specifically?

While many male sex toys are universally enjoyable for men of all sexual orientations, there are some that are particularly suited for gay single and partner play. There are so many fun options to try for both internal and external stimulation. 

In this article, we’ll talk about some of the best blowjob simulators, prostate massagers, penis rings and sex toy accessories on the market today.

How the right sex toy can make all the difference

The best sexual adventures are all about having fun and being able to immerse yourself in complete pleasure in the moment. Sometimes, a vivid fantasy, porn, or a partner stimulating you can be plenty, but with the addition of sex toys you have so many more options and avenues of sexual expression to explore and enjoy.

There is much more to gay sex than simply penetrative anal sex. When you bring sex toys into the bedroom whether for partner or solo play, you add layers to your sexual experience that you otherwise simply wouldn’t have access to.

The dark days of primitive, low-quality sex toys are far behind us. Of course, there are still plenty of low quality toys flooding the market, but if you focus your attention on the high end, high tech end of the spectrum, there are plenty of toys that will truly blow your mind and are capable of delivering a powerful orgasm on demand whenever you please.

Using the right toy at the right moment during sexual play can be the difference that elevates the experience to an entirely new level. Keep reading to learn all about the bad boys that will help you spice things up in the bedroom in ways you could not even have imagined.

Fleshlights and blowjob simulators

Blowjob simulators, also called automatic male masturbators or automatic fleshlights, are among the most popular male sex toys for very understandable reasons. If you have a penis, you know that only few things are more enjoyable than getting your penis sucked and tended to by a willing and deliciously textured orifice. 

When some think of automatic male masturbators, manual, handheld fleshlights may spring to mind. But the sex toy industry has not exactly been sleeping while other industries have adopted technological developments like apps and Bluetooth connectivity. Far from it, the sex toys we will be looking at in this section of the article all take full advantage of Bluetooth, app control and touch-sensitive technology.

Kiiroo Keon

We have mentioned the Kiiroo Keon quite a few times on this blog, but it deserves every mention it gets. The Keon by Austrian sex tech market leader Kiiroo is an automatic as well as interactive male masturbator made of the highest quality materials. It features removable internal sleeves that can be switched out to suit your preferences (and to be cleaned between uses, of course).

The Kiiroo Keon has got to be among the best gay sex toys out there. When you pair it with a tight-fitting fleshlight sleeve, synch it with 2D or VR porn of your choice (or with a partner’s device) and lube it up with Spark heating lubricant, the hands-free experience will be so realistic that you almost can’t be sure whether you are using a sex toy or having real sex.

If you have never used an interactive sex toy before, it is almost impossible to describe precisely how immersive the sexual experience is when you are using a Kiiroo Keon – it has to be experienced directly. 

A few Kiiroo highlights include its incredible stroking speeds of up to 230 strokes a minute, the FeelMe AI technology that makes any type of content interactive for your sexual enjoyment, the fantastic build quality, the super realistic contractions, and the fact that you can pair your Kiiroo Keon with any other Kiiroo device, including all male Kiiroo devices.

Feel Stroker Butt Kiiroo Sleeve

The Kiiroo Keon is compatible with a wide range of fleshlight sleeves, but the best option for gay men has got to be the Feel Stroker Butt. 

The Feel Stroker Butt from Kiiroo is quite possibly the most realistic anal flashlight sleeve in existence. It has been designed and developed with the most realistic sensations in mind, and once you have tried it, there won’t be any doubt in your mind that it succeeds in delivering on its promise.

The Feel Stroker Butt is at its best when it is inserted into the Kiiroo Keon automatic masturbator and synched with porn. Thanks to the advanced technology, your Kiiroo Keon device with the Feel Stroker Butt inside it will be able to react and respond to the action happening in the porn you’re watching. It follows that if you are watching a particularly heated and intense anal sex scene, the Feel Stroker Butt fleshlight sleeve will contract and expand around your penis in accordance with the action on the screen or on your headset.

Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys

If interactive and high-tech aren’t buzzwords that get you excited (Although to be honest, we can’t see why they wouldn’t. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it is all we can say), a manual oral or anal fleshlight may have more appeal. 

If you want to go for a manual oral or anal fleshlight, you should at least go with one of the best on the market. As most sex toy connoisseurs will tell you, the original toys by Fleshlight are the best ones out there. When you purchase a Fleshlight toy, you can be certain that the quality and design are both top shelf.

As for gay sex toys from Fleshlight, you cannot go wrong with any of the toys from the Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys range. The Fleshlight Boys are the gay counterpart to the ever-popular Fleshlight Girls.

Like the Flashlight Girls, the Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys are modelled on real pornstars’ anatomy, which means they come in many different textures and different levels of tightness. You may have a favorite porn star whose ass-ets you would like to get further acquainted with, or you may simply want to pick a Fleshlight Boy based on the product description and reviews. Diego Sans and Milo Christopher are a few of the big name porn stars that have made their anal orifices available for queer men to pleasure themselves with. 

Fleshlight FleshSack Butt and Balls Masturbator

Another fantastic fleshlight option for gay, bi and queer men is the Fleshlight FleshSack Butt and Balls Masturbator. This handheld stroker is made from the same patented SuperSkin material that the Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys are also made from. 

The difference is that the FleshSack isn’t molded on anyone’s particular anatomy, and that it comes with a pair of realistic-feeling, well-hung testicles. If you like to feel that tantalising slap of your partner’s ballsack while you’re fucking him, the FleshSack Butt and Balls Masturbator could be the right choice for you.

Anal toys

If you have a prostate, anal stimulation feels great, regardless of your sexual orientation. However, gay men are often more partial to experimenting with and indulging in anal stimulation.

There are many fantastic sex toys toys out there that are specifically designed and intended for anal play. The toys we will be looking at in this section of the article are ideal whether you want to enjoy a solo session or interact with a partner.

Butt plugs and prostate massagers

Butt plugs and prostate massagers are undoubtedly among the most popular gay sex toys out there. Most gay men are unabashed and uninhabited when it comes to relishing the naughty sensations of anal stimulation.

It doesn’t matter whether you are an anal play pro or a complete beginner – it is always possible to find a high-quality toy to suit your needs and preferences. If you have never explored anal pleasure before, we recommend taking it slow and starting small. You can always work your way up once you have gained an appetite for the sensations.

Lovense Edge

Any article about gay sex toys should include the Lovense Edge, a flexible, perfectly-sized prostate massager by Singapore-based sex tech frontrunner Lovense.

The Lovense Edge is so much more than just a butt plug. This bad boy is anatomically shaped and designed to give you both internal and external stimulation. This is enabled by its two adjustable arms and dual motors. While the larger, thicker arm goes inside the body to stimulate your P-spot, the other sits on your perineum, delivering blissful vibrations that are sure to drive you absolutely wild.

The Lovense Edge is also Bluetooth enabled and can be controlled via the Lovense app. What this means is that you can control the toy via the app – or let a partner take control of it for you. What’s more, the Lovense Edge is small and discreet enough that you can wear it in public, as long as you are able to hide any overt signs of your arousal. Despite having dual motors, the Lovense Edge is nearly completely silent and isn’t likely to alert others to the fact that you are wearing it.

Lovense Hush 2

If you are not quite ready to dive into the deep end of anal play (no pun intended), then one of the smaller Lovense Hush 2 butt plugs may be a better choice for you.

The Lovense Hush 2 comes in four different sizes, ranging from a 1 inch option that is ideal for anal beginners to a more filling 2.25 inch option.

Like the Lovense Edge adjustable prostate massager, the Hush 2 is made from high-quality silicone, is completely water proof, and can be controlled by either yourself or a sexual partner through the Lovense remote app.

Cock rings

Cock rings range from the most simple and basic to truly mind-expanding high tech options. We always recommend picking a cock ring with more to offer than just a little bit of sensation, but it is ultimately up to you whether you prefer a manual cock ring or a Bluetooth-enabled, vibrating one with all of the bells and whistles of a high-tech sex gay sex toy. 

Lovense Gush

If you are looking for a versatile gay sex toy that is equally pleasurable on its own and while interacting with a partner – receiving oral sex or having anal sex – the Lovense Gush vibrating cock ring may just be the perfect choice for you.

The Lovense Gush is a fully adjustable, remote-c0ntrolled vibrating cock ring that is designed to stimulate the glans in particular. You can wrap it around your penis for completely hands-free fun, or you can use it to stroke yourself if you prefer.

The Lovense Gush is deceptively small and compact. It’s beautifully designed in a matte, dark teal silicone and features an adjustable, wrap-around body. It comes with an optional band included for those that want to experience extra intensity while using the toy. 

Lovense Diamo

If you are looking for a slightly more budget-friendly but still high tech vibrating cock ring, the Lovense Diamo is the perfect option. 

The Lovense Diamo looks much more like a traditional cock ring than the newer Lovense Gush. It is made from matte black silicone and features a round hole at the top where you insert your penis. But there is more to the Lovense Diamo than just a ring; it also has a vibrating arm that extends to stimulate your perineum. 

The Lovense Diamo gives off a powerful level of vibration that is strong enough to stimulate not only the wearer but also any sexual partner you are interacting with. Because of its four different wear options, the Lovense Diamo is one of the best gay sex toys to wear for both solo play, foreplay, oral sex and anal sex. If you are waring your Lovense Diamo vibrating cock ring while fucking your partner, he will feel some of the vibration which will only add to his pleasure as well as yours.

Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo

If the idea of a fully interactive, smart vibrating cock ring appeals to you – and why wouldn’t it? – the Hot Octopuss is a must.

The Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo was born in collaboration between innovative UK sex tech brand Hot Octopuss and Dutch sex tech giant Kiiroo. Kiiroo supplied their world-leading internal technology and Bluetooth connectivity while Hot Octopuss brought the original design to the table. As a result, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo is perhaps the most irresistible vibrating cock ring in the universe.

Like its name would suggest, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo features a truly unique, wrap-around design that hugs your penis tightly yet comfortably regardless of your girth. Its design places the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo precisely somewhere between a fleshlight and a cock ring, which is every bit as good as it sounds.

Like all of the other products and toys from Kiiroo’s expansive catalogue, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo is Bluetooth-enabled and can be paired with other Kiiroo toys via the brands own FeelConnect app. Needless to say, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo can be paired with both male and female toys, including other Hot Octopuss Pulse Solos. 

Like the two Lovense vibrating penis rings were have just discussed, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solos is suitable to wear during sex with a partner. Of course, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solos is too large and clunky to wear while having full anal intercourse if you are the giving partner, but it can easily be worn while receiving a blow job or while being anally penetrated. 

Other toys and accessories worthy of consideration and experimentation

There are so many great gay sex toys out there that are worth exploring. We’ve already covered some of the best gay sex toys, but what do you do once you have purchased all of the ‘basics’ like vibrating prostate massagers, cock rings and interactive blow job simulators and still have an appetite for further exploration?

We always recommend starting with the classic sex toys first, and only branching out once you have these foundational toys in your possession. Having said that, here are our suggestions for other great gay sex toys to try out.

Anal beads

Anal beads are a popular gay sex toy, and with good reason. Anal beads can go deep inside the body and can deliver both intense and intimate P-spot stimulation.

There is something truly naughty about playing with anal beads, whether you are using them on yourself or a partner.

Nipple clamps

If you are interested in exploring nipple play, you cannot go wrong with a pair of nipple clamps. Sometimes, adding a simple manual sex toy like nipple claps to your erotic play can heighten the intensity of the entire experience.

Nipple clamps add just the right amount of pressure to your nipples, keeping you hovering right on the edge between pain and pleasure. Nipple clamps are a great way of exploring light BDSM with a partner.

BDSM kits

If BDSM is something that appeals to you, why not get your hands on a BDSM kit? Kits are easy to find and contain some of the basic toys that will set you off on a path of exploration. A typical BDSM kit contains rope, a blindfold, hand cuffs, a whip, and nipple clamps.

How to pick the best sex toys

If you have read the entire article so far, we hope that it has given you a clearer overview over some of the best gay sex toys that are available today. 

We truly believe that pleasure is part of the meaning of life, and that none of us should deny ourselves pleasurable experiences. 

It is perfectly possible to have mind-blowing gay sex without using any toys whatsoever. Two bodies simply communicating with each other and experiencing pleasure together is often enough. But what about those times when you are on your own and get the itch? You may not always have your husband, boyfriend or a sexual partner within summoning distance.

Sex toys, and particularly interactive sex toys, aren’t here to replace real-life sex; they’re here to give us more options, a wider sexual palette to explore and play around with.

In this article we have covered the very best gay sex toys for both singles and couples. If you are having trouble narrowing your selection down further, we recommend making your decision based on your personal preferences and budget. Also, we recommend choosing classic toys over more experimental ones to begin with. Sure, BDSm kits with nipple clamps and rope can be fun to explore, and they can add extra spice to your sexual experiences, but start with the basics. A high-quality, interactive masturbator and a vibrating butt plug can take you very far towards sexual Nirvana.

Always choose quality

If you have never incorporated sex toys into your sexual pleasure before, shelling out on one of the high-tech products mentioned in this article can seem like a bit of an investment, and you may be wondering whether a cheaper product can give you just as much pleasure.

In some cases, unbranded products can be just as good as the higher-end and therefore more expensive toys, but in other cases, the branded products are far superior. As a rule of thumb, manual toys like nipple clamps can be of high quality even if they aren’t produced by any of the household names in the sex toy industry. However, when it comes to Bluetooth enabled and interactive toys, it is always better to go with a toy from one of the industry leading brands like Kiiroo or Lovense.

Final thoughts on choosing the best gay sex toys

Choosing the perfect gay sex toys for you (and your partner) is largely a matter of personal preference. There are plenty of things to consider before you land on a decision.

Start by narrowing down your search to the type of sex toy you would like to explore. Decide whether you are in the market for a vibrating cock ring, a butt plug, a pair of automatic male masturbators, or something else entirely. Once you’ve decided which sex toy category you’re most interested in, the rest of the decision-making process becomes a lot easier.

If you are completely new to playing with sex toys, we recommend getting your hands on a few of the ‘classics.’ You simply cannot go wrong with an interactive, automatic male masturbator like the Kiiroo Keon or an equivalent masturbator. If you want to start out with something a little smaller, something that is perfect for wear during in-person intercourse, a vibrating cock ring like the Lovense Gush 3 is the way to go.

And of course, if you enjoy anal play, you also absolutely cannot go wrong with a vibrating butt plug. If you are in any doubt when it comes to making your final selection, go for a toy that is as versatile and gives you as many different possibilities as possible. For this reason, we recommend making a vibrating, interactive penis ring your first gay sex toy purchase. A vibrating penis ring is perfect for both partner and solo play, and can easily be worn during both masturbation and in-person sex.

Frequently asked questions

Do gay guys use toys?

Sex toys are for everyone, including gay guys. When it comes to stimulation and pleasure, all male bodies are likely to respond to and enjoy very similar kinds of sensations, regardless of sexual orientation. Gay men enjoy vibrating cock rings and automatic masturbators just as much as bisexual or straight men do.

Having said that, gay men may, generally speaking, be a little more open-minded and willing to play with prostate massagers, anal beads and other anal sex toys.